Masturbation and Meditation

Let us get deeper into what has been one of the most controversial themes of all time.

Many may wonder how there can be such an association between Masturbation and Meditation, two things that theoretically do not match.  But I'll show you that they can match perfectly!

Before actually entering into this subject, it is important to analyze how human sexuality has become so unbalanced with the advent of pornography.  As I have discussed in previous texts, it is not to say that pornography is something that is not useful and cannot be used to help, rather than "destabilize" the whole universe of human sexuality.  But the fact is, over the years pornography has become a manipulation tool, much more than a tool for enlightenment and help.

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The 80's was marked by a "pre-viagra" generation that was concerned to show society that sex could be something much more fun and enjoyable.  Unfortunately, over time, and the advent of sexually transmitted diseases, this needed to be reviewed.  Pornography sought to teach people how to protect themselves by using latex condoms to prevent themselves from such diseases and thus get sexually entertained in a more responsible way.

As this activity became more "corporate" and less amateurish, the whole thing was changing its shape, and it acquired more "manipulative" contours, geared much more to easy profit than to something "to the service of society".

In the "post-viagra" era, things started to become more "spectacular".  Suddenly it seemed that relating sexually was almost impossible for poor mortals.  And the whole thing became more juggling, more aggressive, less respectful, much less concerned with helping and making sexuality more pleasurable.  It was all becoming more stupid, more unbelievable, more rude, much riskier.

So you may ask: but what does all this have to do with Masturbation, or even with Meditation?  With Meditation, nothing of course!  But with Masturbation, everything!

Unfortunately, for the vast majority of adolescents in the hormonal and sexual development stages, pornography has always been the main source of information, since parents have always only bothered to tell their children about the precautions they should take to avoid contracting illness, and never entered into a full conversation about sexuality in a more comprehensive way.  Also, they themselves came from repressive sex educations, so for the vast majority of parents, talking about sex has always been very embarrassing.

The traditional masturbation model has always been conditioned to make use of erotic stimulants, such as porn movies, men's magazines with naked women and things like that.  And for the adolescent without further instructions from a mature adult and ready to give him better information, pornographic films have always been the sexual behavior pattern.

Therefore, for the "post-viagra" generation, this has generated enormous distortions, because even when watching these more "sensational and juggling" films, sexual relationships seemed to be an almost impossible mission!

But how has this been affecting our masturbatory habits?

A pornographic film has a monstrous erotic charge, a power of excitement that is hypnotic and addictive, like a hallucinogenic drug.  For a teenager at a character-forming age and physiology, this has a devastating and destructive effect.  That is why we have so many cases of men today who suffer from premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunctions, anorgasmy, among other dysfunctions generated by exposure to addiction in pornography.  Not counting those who simply decide to give in to addiction, and simply do not have sexual relationships to another partner.

The truth is that when a person masturbates using a visual sexual stimulant like these, it makes the act totally mechanical, where the genital may even become insensitive to manual stimulation over time, generating even greater problems than those previously reported.  The person is not focused on the pleasure of his own body, but rather on relieving the excitatory charge caused by that sexual stimulation generated by pornography.

It is at this point that Tantra proposes a "re-educative" form of masturbation, where this excitation will be sought in its own body, not in external erotic stimulations.

The naked body, as discussed in previous texts, can be a source of sexual stimulation, if we can balance our masculine and feminine energies, overcome the prejudices injected into our head by society, and lose the modesty of admiring our naked body.  In addition, by focusing our attention on our body and creating the habit of "relating" sexually to ourselves, how we might relate to an outside person, we are opening up to feel all the sensations of our own touch, and it is from opening up to feel that we will be transforming the act of masturbation into a meditative activity.

Can you understand this association now?  Forget everything, create an intimate and enjoyable environment for yourself.  Leave the environment in the mid-light, use a relaxing song if you wish.  You can even make use of incense to work more pleasant and relaxing odors.  All to make the environment lighter, and with a softer energy.  Then take off all your clothes, stand comfortably on the bed, on the couch, or even stand up and go exploring all over... I mean ALL OVER!  The extension of your body.  Do not restrict the genitals.  Consider that the full extent of your skin is a huge genital to be explored.  That way you'll be opening up to forms of orgasm that you never even imagined to be possible.

Finally, touch your genitals.  Be gentle with it.  Do not be in a hurry to get excited, just touch yourself.  Gradually you will realize that your genital will always respond to the subtle and tender touch of your hands, without the need to use erectile-stimulating medications.  But touch yourself gently, without haste.  Have a slow and loving massage.  Do not rush to climax!  Enjoy the time.  Live the experience!  This is making love to yourself.  Meditation is found in observing the sensations that this provokes, in knowing oneself and opening oneself to feeling.  The pleasure will be so intense that you will not be able to think of anything else!

Over time, and with the habit, you will notice that your body begins to develop a sensitivity that you never thought possible to be developed.  You will open yourself to new and even more intense levels of enjoyment.  And your sex life will become fuller and more fulfilling.

Nobody needs porn movies to make love to themselves!  Get rid of it.