Self-Knowledge is The Key

We live in a society in which the idea of ​​self-knowledge is not only not encouraged but also totally ignored.  Society has become accustomed to setting a pattern of behavior, and it is always expected that all the others will "fit" into this pattern.

But the truth is that there are profound differences in behavior, something that was perfectly observed by the famous father of psychoanalysis, the Swiss psychiatrist and psychotherapist Carl Gustav Jung.  He noted that there are people who are in deep need of constant social interaction, who are extremely difficult to see themselves alone, and others who seek isolation and are extremely satisfied with very little social interaction, as well as being extremely creative and original Beings.

Among other things that Jung observed throughout his career, he advocated the idea of ​​individualization, that is, each Being is unique in itself and has its own unique characteristics of itself, and this must be understood and respected.

Against all this, society has always despised these precepts and has always tended to glorify only one class of these individuals.

We live in a society that glorifies extroverts.  According to studies by Carl Jung, he observed that individuals classified as extroverts are people who seek energy externally, that is, they are people who feel motivated and stimulated by the interaction between all the individuals present around them, and with interaction with the environment.  They are individuals who need constant interaction with people.

Beings who are constantly speaking, they create their ideas during these exchanges with other people, and they are not too accustomed to creating their own ideas by themselves.  They usually follow groups where a particular leader develops an idea, and this idea is passed on to all others to be faithfully followed.

Extroverts are people who need constant attention, love to show themselves off, to be the center of attention.  This can often lead to conflicts between them as they live to compete with each other.  This competition is often what leads them to create new ideas, but always with the intention of gaining prominence in the group.  They need this prominence.

The extroverts have an extreme need to feel accepted in a group, so they follow the ideas imposed by the group to which they wish to be part, in a total and unquestioned way.

Society as a whole has always agreed to accept this type of behavior as the accepted standard of behavior to be demanded by all, since they are people who accept the rules easily, considering that they have an extreme need to be part of a group (Understand " Society "as being a group that has its own customs, its values, its predetermined rules, so anyone who agrees to follow these rules are "respected" people in these environments), and it is often very difficult for them to create their own rules.  They are often very afraid of Solitude, something that is seen as destructive and terrifying.

In this environment, the Introverts have always been regarded as sick, abnormal beings, possessors of serious disorders, because they are Beings that do not integrate, do not seek social interaction with anyone, they feel very well alone.

Introverts were always seen as "The Strangers" because they always went against it.  They are beings who, contrary to the common thought present in society today, never feared solitude.  On the contrary, they love to live alone!  Social interaction depletes them energetically.  They prefer to live their lives their own way. They are beings who have their own ideas, they are extremely creative.  They are interested in several different subjects, generally considered complicated, such as Philosophy, Psychology, Occultism, Arts, Movies.  They are self-motivated Beings, each with its own motivation.  They can become excellent writers, composers, filmmakers, painters, surgeons, psychologists.  Deep down they are in love with human nature, they are those who sincerely love and give themselves totally in their relationships.

But do not ask them to speak in public, or in environments with huge crowds!  This will deplete the energy of the Introverts.  It's not that they do not like social interaction, it's just that they cannot get "off the hook" as extroverts usually do, talking about unimportant matters, maybe even arguing about other people's actions.  None of this is of interest to the Introverts, who prefer to discuss different ideas on specific subjects, but always respecting differences.  They hate competition! They love teamwork, where each one contributes with what they do best.  They recognize the unique talent of each one.

Yes, Introverts are very rich Beings, if you know how to deal with such a Being.

But in general, society only discriminates against them, precisely because they are not "Equal to Others".

Why?  Why does everyone need to be the same way?  Why this need for "leveling", of having to match everyone?

Understand that I do not intend here to analyze who is better or worse in this matter, but only to present the differences of each one and make them think a little bit about it.

But where does that come in when it comes to sexual intercourse?  Oh, we are finally getting to the point!

Due to the culture spread by society of glorifying the Extroverts and condemning the Introverts, it is obvious that eventually the Introverts are led to see themselves as inferior people, to reject their own intrinsic nature and to wish to be as the extroverts are.

When it becomes sexual, and the introverts begin to admire the physical beauty of extroverts, their resourcefulness and ease of relationship with people and the environment around them, it is obvious that the thing becomes chaotic!  Even because, in a society that values ​​the image above the simply "Being", we are all led to desire to be like a certain person, or to have a different lifestyle, or to try to be what we are not in essence.  And that's where Chaos begins!

A marriage between an Introvert and an Extrovert, unless each of them knows how to understand and respect the differences between them, is a relationship destined to fail, since the Extroverts will always have this need of interaction with many people, and the Introverts feel the need to stay at home, alone.  Also because the Extrovert will want to keep talking all the time, talking through their teeth about unimportant and meaningless matters, and the Introverts will feel sucked-dry from having to listen to all these nonsense and not being able to talk about what really motivates and interests him.

When an Introvert starts talking about the issues that mostly motivate him, an Extroverted person will often try to talk about something else, or will want to know what promotions are being offered at the mall, or will want to talk about what the neighbors around them are up to.

This is not to say about when jealousy comes in the way, since the extrovert does not select his companies and has many "friends", or "girl-friends", while the Introvert stays alone at home, abandoned.  Deep down he likes to be alone at home, as it is a time to recharge his energies his way, but it is obvious that he or she misses a more constant company, someone who understands his/her way of being.

Self-knowledge is the primary key to happiness!  And it is obvious that a marriage will be much more beneficial if, instead of being established on the basis of physical attraction, questions of psychological profile of each one are considered, since only one Introvert can fully understand the needs and live well with an Introvert, and only an Extrovert can understand, and maybe get along with an Extrovert!

But before anything else, before getting into any new relationship, it is very much important to have self-knowledge of who you are, intimately.  We are unique beings, and we must impose ourselves according to these unique characteristics.  It is of the utmost importance to get to know how to respect our essence of who we are in our hearts and to know that our inner energy must be taken into account when choosing a partner with whom we will share our intimacy.

This is the great Key to Happiness!