Intimacy

This is a matter at least intriguing: what is intimacy?

Many may find the question irrelevant or at least childish like, but how many can say with complete certainty that they know what it is to be intimate?

Many may consider that "being close" to someone is knowing the details of that person's life that are unique to them and no one else is aware of it.  But the point is I'm not talking about being close to someone else, but about being intimate with yourself.

"Of course I'm close to myself!  I know very well who I am!"

Do you really know yourself?  But I want to go furthermore here in this discussion.

Of course, self-knowledge is the newest word of order in this New Age Era, and to a great extent this is about having intimacy on a level of spirit, to get to know exactly who one Is, spiritually speaking.

But apart from knowing yourself spiritually, I primarily want to address the issue of sexual intimacy, and in this matter I ask: How intimately do you know your body?

"Of course I know my body, I see myself naked every day while I take a shower!"

Only during the bath?  How much of your lifetime do you spend without clothes on?  How many hours, or even minutes a day do you go without your clothes on?  How many times have you stopped to observe this body, the anatomical details of it?  How many times have you noticed your genital?

"Forget it, I do not do it!  It's a homosexual thing!"

Or, when it comes to women: "I do not like my body, I'm fat!", "I have cellulite!", "I'm full of varicose veins!", "I have many folds!", "My body is full of stretch marks!"

There are plenty of excuses to never face the naked body!

Society has always been committed to programming us to have a real repudiation of the naked body, so many people have a great difficulty to face their nakedness.  Throughout all these years society has been carefully programming in our minds, since the very early age a feeling of inconvenience and embarrassment about our nakedness.

Take the children, for example...

Kids love to be without clothes!  This gives them a sense of freedom, of living without the masks that the clothes really represent.  In addition, they enjoy taking advantage of the absence of clothing to observe and explore their own body, every detail of it.  In particular, obviously the genitals!  After all, they have the curiosity to know what a "Penis" is and what a "Vulva" is.  Just to name one of the myriad names that the female genital possesses!

This is having intimacy with one's own body.  And when the thing starts to get sexual, it gets even more interesting contours!  But society takes care of turning everything into something "dirty", "wrong", among other adjectives even worse.

How many have really tried to touch your own body?  What are the most sensitive points of your genital?  What are the most sensitive points of your body, your arms, your legs?  How much sensitivity do you have in your anus, or even in your buttocks?  How much do you like to be touched in the nipples, or around your chest?  Ever touched your back, or even the sides of your hips?

How much intimacy do you have with your body?

For this New Age, considering the new aspects of sexuality, it is essential to rescue the innocence of our childish curiosity about our bodies, to ignore the possible "defects", and to fully love ourselves the way we are in all our little details .

This goes way beyond the simple masturbation.  After all, masturbation is something that happens too fast, and in general we are not concentrated in our body, but in some external erotic stimulation.  Forget those stimulation images!  Seek to stimulate yourself with yourself, and pay very careful attention to every reaction of your body, every sensation.

This certainly goes beyond child innocence, since sexually speaking we know exactly what should be explored.  But do not rush to orgasm.  Do not be in a hurry to end this game, prolong it as much as you can.

Only then will we be having real intimacy with our body!

And enjoy your nakedness as well.  Only then will it be possible to have a full and pleasant sexuality!