Masturbation Partner

Let us now begin to expend the concept of "Construction of Intimacy" a bit, since this is something truly new for the vast majority of people.

Has anyone ever thought about having a "masturbation partner"?

In the society in which we live in, what has been established is that no one should give much importance to sex, but this has always been very necessary because of the need for reproduction, procreation, and perpetuation of the species.  Therefore, sex has always been something of extreme importance, but a system of disinformation, misrepresentation and repression has been created, which has only generated total chaos in people's lives.  This has already been discussed in previous texts, so I will not stick to this discussion.

I have consistently reaffirmed that our most basic form of sexual relationship is through masturbation, where we not only have the opportunity to discover all the sexual nuances of our body, but also develop a personal way of feeling pleasure with our own touch.  I have already talked about the importance of developing a work of re-education in this sense so that this masturbation becomes something meditative, aimed at the person himself, and remain absent from influences of current technology.

I have also talked about the importance of being completely comfortable with our own body, of being intimate with it and of feeling good about our nakedness, with the total absence of clothes.  Our body is our Sacred Temple and we must have total respect and Unconditional Love for it, accepting it in its absolute perfection, even in its "small defects".

Very well.  After having accomplished all this, we begin to feel happy with our bodies, and we begin to feel excited by the simple sight of this naked body.  I am also considering that the person has already done a work of acceptance of his/her masculine and feminine energies, that we all have the two polarities, because they are necessary for our emotional balance, and that you no longer feel constrained by feeling horny for yourself.

So we become overflowing with Unconditional Love, and little by little there is a growing need to share this with a partner, with someone with whom we are sexually attracted, but also with total emotional identification on a spiritual level.  An absolutely sincere and open friendship.

It is in this context that I now introduce the idea of the "Masturbation Partner", and it is in this context that a new affective and sexual relationship will be born, totally centered on the need to share these new discoveries of oneself, and to share a unique experience of each one, building an intimacy that goes far beyond two naked bodies.

Has anyone ever seen a "Making Of" of a pornographic movie?  Has anyone ever stopped to think about how difficult it is to relate sexually in front of a whole team of technicians, makeup artists, camera operators, producer, director, photographer, etc?  How difficult it is to divide something as intimate as our bodies are, and our own sexuality?  And what's worse, having to interrupt the climax of the relationship because the whole thing is not going as the director of the movie wants it to be!

Being a "Pornographic Actor" is not as easy as you can imagine.  But I want to use the analogy here to show how difficult it can be to start masturbating in front of another person, however trustworthy he/she may be, considering it is a next step in developing your self-confidence.  It is no longer just about being naked in front of someone, but having an orgasm in front of someone who watches us, accompanies us closely.

It is a work of development on our most exhibitionist side.  But while this can be a huge challenge for the first time, on the other hand it is a great way to overcome our inhibitions, to gain confidence in ourselves, as the person who assists us is also our greatest supporter and enthusiastic spectator, and a great opportunity to create an intimacy never before imagined possible.

If the person who watches us also sees sexuality with the same naturality that the partner presents to him, he will be very interested and totally attuned to what is being expressed by the person he loves, and this will create a connection so powerful that it will enable the person who is watching literally feel the orgasm that the person is having in front of him, in himself!  And that will be something absolutely exciting, far more powerful than watching it in a pornographic film, as there is no reciprocal affective connection with pornographic actors.  It is pure love energy, which can flow even if at long distances, considering that the two are having this first experience in a virtual way, through the internet for example.

A live scene of masturbation, which happens to be something shared with someone with whom we have a deep affective connection, not only breaks our inhibitions and discomforts with that person, but also creates such a great empowerment, due to this strong affective connection, that from there on the flow of sexual energy will be something so full and of unprecedented intimacy.  Something not seen in traditional relationships, but it can be perfectly observed in the relationship between pornographic actors, how they empower each other and fully feed on these energies, in an environment of total absence of inhibition and complete self-confidence.  It is definitely a world apart from the society which we are so accustomed to dealing with.

From this sharing, it is quite natural for these partners to begin to touch each other, having full confidence to give their already very intimate partner the key to their orgasms, since both of them have already been observed in detail and already know very well how to truly sexually satisfy one another.

As you can see, the pornography that many classify as something totally offensive and perverted, if watched carefully enough can show us the keys to a more empowered, full and very healthy sexuality.  I know that many will still "Twist their noses" at this idea, but whoever has a more open mind and truly experience this kind of intimacy build will know the difference.  Only those who try it out can see how powerful this is!

This will certainly be a huge challenge! But the results are second to none.