Love yourself

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Jesus Christ, the Divine Master who was incarnated among us more than two thousand years ago, brought the absolute truth and the main law of the Kingdom of God and of the Universe: "Love your neighbor as you love yourself." This, in short, defines the great truth of Unconditional Love. Of course this applies in general, but how can this apply to sex?

A lot of the problems we have in our sex lives happen due to a wrong image we have of ourselves, and that is directly connected to everything that is taught to us throughout our lives.  We are talking about laws and social conventions that have been damaging us much more than it has helped us, over the years.

To have a healthy and satisfying sex life, first of all, it is necessary to have a good sex relationship with your own self, and this means to have a positive self-image of your own body, both in the aesthetic and in the organic aspects.

The fact is that in general we give the responsibility of loving ourselves to our partners, and that is where everything collapses.  After all, how can a man understand a woman's body, and vice versa ?!

Of course, we have a lot of information available today about all the anatomical and organic details of all of us, men and women, and we tend to study everything about the opposite sex in order to become wonderful lovers!

But what about me?!

We hardly stop to ask ourselves this crucial question: What gives me pleasure?  Where do I feel most pleased to be touched and caressed? And more importantly, am I open to receiving caresses? Do I accept being caressed? These are questions that only the person can answer, because only she can know where she has the most sensitivity, how she likes to be stimulated and what excites her most. No one else can answer these questions for you!

This problem attacks men and women. Men summarize their sexual self-exploration as masturbation, but this is also inefficient, since it concentrates solely and exclusively on the genital stimulation, without exploiting the contact in other parts of the body, otherwise it could be considered a sissy, a homosexual!  Imagine what they would say if they find out that I like to be caressed on my ass?!  What if I say I like to be touched on my breasts? They'll tell me I'm a little girl!!!

Oh, society...

And what about the women, who were always repressed and discouraged from doing sexual self exploration?!  Masturbation?  It's a devil thing!!!  It's wrong!  It's dirty!  You're going to go crazy if you masturbate.  Getting naked then, like the Playboy models?! It would be grounded for life, or worse punishments!

How we have been destroying everyone's heads ...

Sex is sin, period!  And so what?  If I cannot have sex to bear children, how will I? Do not worry, the stork will bring you the kids!!!  How much ignorance...

Since parents never stopped to instruct their children about how to relate sexually, since it was a prohibited subject, it was obvious that this information would be sought in sources of less credibility.  Which means, all those who were not giving a shit for all this bullshit , And they were having lots of sex!!! This has never worked very well, since we have been seeing the number of girls getting pregnant in their early years, with the body still in formation.

Discovering one's own body is of enourmous importance.  We must love it with all its anatomical details, regardless of whether it is fat or thin, tall or short, ugly or beautiful.  The New Age Era demands a new vision, not only of sex, but of the naked body. We can no longer yield to the repressions of a society without logic, which follows distorted and meaningless beliefs.  We should be open to the new paradigms so that we can have a healthier sex life and be truly happy, and seek the best information on the subject, since traditional porn movies also do not show "Life as It Is."

Love for oneself must come first, and the naked body should be looked at naturally, without prejudice.  The child should be encouraged to explore his or her own body in any way she wishes to explore it.  Of course, as long as it's not in public, in front of everyone!!! Just teach her to have her private, intimate place where she can do this exploration in a healthy and calm way.  And it is obvious that the assistance of the parents is of great importance, but not to repress it, but to direct, guide it.

We are past the time to face sex with ease.  And the naked body should be admired, respected, explored, and above all, loved and idolized!  Self-love is the key to wholeness, there is no other way to explore a healthy sex life.  And try to put aside the prejudices and limitations of this misguided and outdated society!  Men, explore yourself, the way you would explore a woman's body!  Pamper yourself, allow yourself to touch all areas of your body without shame, without limitations. You should touch your chest, your nipples, your abdomen, your back, your buttocks, your anus, your thighs, legs, feet, arms, hands. Only then you will be abble to find out how you would like to be touched.  Open yourself to this touch.  And do not worry about erection!!!  Respect your genitals, above everything else.  They deserve to be loved, idolized for sure, as the source of life creation that they are, and appreciated as well.

The same goes for women!  Forget the conventions and repressions suffered.  Do not be afraid or ashamed to explore every anatomical detail of your body. And above all, You can explore your genitals at your own will. Enjoy!

The intimacy of a couple depends on each partner being fully aware of their bodies.  Forget porn movies, they do not show reality!  Sex is much simpler than we can imagine, and each one must learn to know how they prefer to be caressed and touched.